The world of dating is complex for so many reasons. It involves getting to know a person better and learning all about both the ‘good’ and the ‘bad’ that make them unique. But what happens when you find yourself falling for a person who is struggling a bit with their mental health. When you find yourself dating someone with anxiety issues, in particular?
Well, considering the times in which we currently live, the truth is that you’d probably be hard-pressed to find a partner who doesn’t suffer from anxiety to some extent right now! Having said that, it is possible to be supportive without stepping into the role of being their ‘therapist’. Here’s what you need to know.
Encourage them to seek professional help
Coping with anxiety is a mammoth undertaking, and it can prove difficult to do it alone. While you should always listen to your partner when they come to you to talk about their emotions and their challenges relating to their anxiety, it is also important to encourage them to seek help from a professional. This is especially important if their anxious feelings become overwhelming and start impacting their ability to function on a day-to-day basis.
Listen without judgement
Remember that when your partner confides in you regarding their anxiety, they need you to listen without judgement. Also, remember that it is not your job to ‘fix’ the problem, nor does your partner expect you to. Sometimes simply lending an ear and giving a kiss and a cuddle is all that’s needed to help calm their nerves and to help them regain perspective.
Don’t put pressure on them
Anxiety can make it difficult for a person to take part in certain activities or visit certain places that wouldn’t pose any sense of worry to someone else. Keep in mind that a simple night out with friends or a trip to the dentist may fill your partner with dread and panic. Do your best to be patient and never downplay their feelings or put pressure on them do anything that they don’t feel comfortable doing.
Dating Someone with Anxiety Issues
In short, be there for your partner and encourage them to seek help when needed. Just because anxiety is common does not mean that it’s easy to live with!