Way back somewhere around 500BC, the Greek philosopher Heraclitus said, “The only thing that is constant is change”. That’s never been truer than it is now in our fast-paced world.
The thing about change is that it’s really an opening for great new opportunities to enter our life. Sometimes we simply grow out of relationships or circumstances, or something that once worked well for us no longer does; and often, if we don’t voluntarily change what we’ve outgrown, outside circumstances change them for us, sometimes far more painfully.
How to know when it’s time to change
The need for change usually creeps up on us gradually, giving us little clues along the way. If we’re not paying attention or we’re in denial, these hints become louder and more difficult to ignore. For example, the partner who doesn’t appreciate you may pick a fight to instigate a break-up, you could fail at the course you’re not enjoying, or make a serious mistake at that part-time job you hate and end up being fired.
If you’d rather do things gracefully and by your own choice, look out for these signs:
- A sense of dissatisfaction
- Flashes of resentment
- Feeling unappreciated or disrespected
- A nagging feeling that something isn’t right
- Downright unhappiness
- How much to change
We often think of change as having to be drastic, and sometimes it does need to be. You may well need to start looking for a new job, decide to go travelling instead of studying, or leave that destructive relationship to make space for someone who truly values you.
Other times though, a smaller change can be enough to shift the entire situation into something better. Perhaps instead of dumping your disrespectful lover, you could have an honest conversation about how their behaviour makes you feel. Rather than dropping out of your studies completely, you could change your course choices. Or instead of leaving your part-time job, you could request a new role or a pay-raise that makes it worthwhile for you to stay.
Personal growth of any kind requires evaluation of yourself and your life, and then making decisions about what needs to change. After all, we can’t improve anything if we don’t first acknowledge that the way things are isn’t working for us. Rather make change your friend and watch your horizons expand exponentially.