If you have ever experienced the backlash that followed after posting a picture of your young adult on Facebook without their permission, you’ll be well aware of the fact that the combo of parenting and social media isn’t always as straight-forward as one might expect. There’s no denying that parenting in the age of the selfie is no easy task! Here’s our take on the do’s and don’ts to help you navigate your way through it all (relatively) unscathed.
Social Media Do’s – DO:
Ask your teen for his/her go ahead before posting something that involves him/her
Think that posting about how proud you are of your teen’s recent accomplishments at university couldn’t possibly anger them? Well, you never know! Some teens may feel embarrassed or may want to keep these things private. Either way, it’s always safer to speak to them before posting anything online.
Ask your young adult before uploading any photos of them
Your teen knows how to use Snapchat filters and is almost certainly extremely talented when it comes to snapping the perfect selfie! Because of this, ‘regular’ family snaps probably won’t meet their strict criteria. With this in mind, ask for their approval before posting and tagging them in a photo on social media. Oh, and as a rule of thumb, embarrassing old baby photos are always a no-go!
Ask for their advice
It’s not the best idea to try to pretend that you know it all when it comes to social media. Your youngster is only going to find this annoying. You have entered their world, and it’s probably wise to acknowledge this fact. Initiate bonding instead by asking for their advice and guidance when it comes to using and making the most of the different platforms. Who knows? You might even learn a thing or two!
Be open to hearing how your young adult feels about you using social media and suggest that the two of you set boundaries when it comes to interacting with one another online. If you chat about this ahead of time, you’ll be able to avoid a number of arguments in the future! As with most things in life, communication can solve almost all problems.
Social Media Don’ts – DON’T:
Feel offended if your young student doesn’t want to accept your friend request
This is not uncommon, nor is it a dig at you as a parent. Young adults have a tendency to want their privacy as they gain more independence and start experimenting with and discovering their own identity. Having their parents policing their social media profiles is going to cramp their style (well, that’s what they’re thinking).
Instead of feeling disappointed, try to look on the bright side. At least you won’t have to worry about making any of the social media faux pas like the ones mentioned above!
Post what you think are innocent comments on your teen’s posts
There are very few (if any) teens and young adults who enjoy it when their parents comment on their posts. Even if you think you’re being sweet or showing how proud you are of them, they might not see it the same way. If ever in doubt, keep scrolling!
See? Being a bit more conscious of your behaviour on social media means you can still be the digital-savvy social butterfly that you want to be without leaving your teen angry and red-faced.