Parents: Helping your Child through Their First Heartbreak

By Sep 28, 2017 No Comments

As your teen transitions into the adult world, one thing is inevitable – their first real heartbreak. The question is, how can you, as a parent, help your child cope, especially when they are living far away from home? We have some advice to share that we hope you’ll find helpful.

Be There for Them

Even if you can’t do so in person, it is important that you make it known that you are there to listen any time your child might need to talk, vent or shed a few tears.

However, you should also remember not to be too pushy. It might take him or her a while before feeling ready to open up about the situation and actually express his or her feelings. Be patient and do your best to hold off on the clichés. Your child probably doesn’t want to hear about how there are plenty of other fish in the sea just yet!

Send a Care Package

From heart-healing chocolates to an inspiring book to read, or even a ticket to a play or movie to keep him or her busy, a care package will go a long way towards helping your son or daughter feel better. Not only will it assist in putting a smile on his / her face, but it will also remind them that there are other people in their life who care about and love them no matter what.

Remind Them about the Value of Friendship

It is so easy to feel completely alone when you’re trying to overcome your first heartbreak – we all remember how it can seem that the entire world has come to an end! Think back to your own first heartbreak (funny how we all seem to remember that one). One of the things that probably got you through it all was the ability to lean on your friends, especially those who had already gone through something similar.

As a parent living far away from your child, simply reminding him or her about the power and value of friendship can make a world of difference.

Get Them Help

While heartbreak is a normal part of growing up, teens and young adults will react to it in very different ways. Some may take longer than others to deal with it and some may struggle to cope despite the support they may be receiving.

Knowing this, it’s important to take action and seek professional help if and when it becomes evident that your child is battling or suffering from depression. Don’t hesitate as waiting too long to do something may mean that he or she starts to turn to other methods of coping such as drinking heavily, experimenting with drugs or even engaging in self-harm. The good news is that there is plenty of help out there – and it needn’t cost the earth!

Ultimately, the most important thing is to simply make yourself available to your child and to take them seriously during this period of difficulty and sadness. After all, there is nothing more encouraging and soothing than knowing that you have the unconditional support and understanding of your parents when it comes to making it through a trying time.

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