Every time we go through big life changes, like moving away from home or starting a course of study (or eventually getting married and having kids), chances are that our circle of friends might change.  Sometimes it’s simply a result of physical distance and sometimes it’s because your interests have diverged and you find yourselves growing apart, a natural progression that might even happen several times over your life.

When you’re in that no-man’s land where you no longer feel connected to your old friends, but you haven’t yet developed a new circle, it can help to have a strategy for meeting new people.  Here are some ideas:

Join a club or group
Choose something you’re already interested in or pick something completely new you’d like to try e.g. hiking, archery or gaming.  Then find out what related clubs or groups operate in your area.  You’ll be doing something fun and/or learning a new skill along with a bunch of others, which puts you in a relaxed space, making it easier to be open to new (and possibly quite different) people.

Work it
If you have time and could use the extra cash, find a part-time job where you get to interact with lots of people, like a coffee shop or bar.  You’ll meet other staff members and will also soon spot the regulars and can take the opportunity to casually chat (in a non-creepy way) as you’re serving someone.  Asking if they know of good places to meet people could be a great way to start a conversation.

Go online
Try online dating and specify that you’re looking for friends or activity partners, as well as potential love interests (if you are).  For safety’s sake, follow the same precautions as you would with online dating, even if you’re simply interested in making friends.

Having a positive attitude and an open mind about the kind of people you’d like to meet will make all the difference as you experiment with new ways to expand your social circle.  If you’re having fun, you’re on the right track!

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