Words are words, right? Actually no – words, and the choices you make with them, are actually important. Words help to frame the attitude that you carry with you into the day. They can be useful in finding the positive in every situation.
Often, the difference between a positive mindset and a negative one is the words you use. Whether describing your feelings or what’s going on in your life. Here are some ways that you can learn to speak in a more positive way. See the good instead of the bad and say it out loud.
Think before you speak and use positive language
Instead of blurting out your thoughts the moment they pop into your head, take a step back. Think about what you want to say. Having ‘no filter’ makes it more likely that you’re going to offend someone by mistake or be misunderstood. It can also make you sound full of negativity. Focusing your words on problems instead of solutions. Even if you ARE thinking of solutions!
Small word choices can make a big change in the message you send to yourself and others:
Instead of saying “I have to finish this 600-word essay by tomorrow” say “I get to finish this 600-word essay by tomorrow”. Saying ‘get’ instead of ‘have’ reminds you what a privilege it is to be able to study further.
Remind yourself that most challenges are temporary
Try adding the words ‘right now’ to the end of sentences that are a bit negative. For example, “I have so much work to do, right now”. This reminds you that challenges are only temporary. Things change and this diffuses the power of an overwhelming negative thoughts.
Difficult times when you have lots to do, or when everything seems to be going wrong, are a part of life. But with a positive attitude, even the toughest of times are unlikely to last forever. Changing your attitude and your perception of the problem puts out good vibes into the world. So even if your ‘challenges’ aren’t resolved as quickly as you’d like. At least you’re not also swamped with hopelessness and self-pity.
Positive affirmations and gratitude
Positive affirmations may seem cheesy, but they do work. You can train your brain to think differently. If you repeat the same negative thoughts over and over, what comes out of your mouth is likely to be negative. But repeat positive thoughts to yourself every day and you can teach yourself to think more positively.
Write some positive affirmations and stick them up by your mirror. Repeat them every morning. Try downloading a positive meditation app on your phone. Listen to it every night before you go to sleep.
When you’re feeling down in the dumps, try writing a gratitude list. No matter how bad you feel, there is always something that you can find to be grateful for. Gratitude is great for dissolving negative thoughts. Helping you to see the positive things in your life.
Surround yourself with positivity
When you spend time with people who are negative, you begin to mimic their behaviour. As far as possible, hang around with people who fuel your joy.
That ‘friend’ of yours who always seems angry and negative. Their attitudes can fuel your negativity. Try to spend less time with them. Or speak to them about changing your attitudes together.
Make a point of avoiding situations that you know are going to upset you. Or that trigger negative thoughts. If you find yourself stalking your ex’s Facebook page once again – stop doing it immediately! And talking about social media… Don’t get involved in the comment threads of controversial topics. You’ll start to feel frustrated.
Be mindful of your thoughts, actions and the people you surround yourself with. Before long, you’ll find that you can also be more mindful of the words that come out of your mouth. Enjoy a far more positive, happy attitude to life!