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How to Feel Better

By June 12, 2014 No Comments

When you’re going through one of those slumps where you feel like you just can’t do anything right, it can be very demoralising.  Sometimes it even feels like you’re never going to achieve anything again.  There are many ways you can help pull yourself out of the doldrums though.  Here are a few things to try:

Take baby steps – do one thing at a time and finish it
Think of something small that you could do right now and do it from beginning to end.  It could be a task in itself or one step in a bigger plan, so long as there is a clear end-point for that particular task or step.  Just starting something – anything – rather than endlessly worrying, thinking or planning, often breaks that feeling of inertia, and completing things gives us a sense of accomplishment.  Those simple actions of starting and finishing help to energise us for further tasks.

Give yourself permission to be imperfect
After all we’re all only human.  If we were perfect, we wouldn’t need to be here on this planet right now, learning and growing through our experiences.  So if you don’t get everything right all the time, it’s actually ok.  Just do the best you can under the circumstances and then leave it at that.  Giving others permission to be imperfect too also saves a lot of stress.

Consider that everything that happens to you is an opportunity to grow
Whenever you’re confronted with a difficult situation, ask yourself ‘What am I supposed to learn from this?’  Sometimes that question leads to really creative solutions that open up a whole bunch of new opportunities.  Sometimes the answer is simply ‘Ok, I’ve learned that I need to handle that differently next time’.

All (or any fact, any) of these things will help you to feel more empowered in your life, even as you accept that you can’t control everything.  You can, however, choose the attitude you approach life with and how you respond to circumstances.  Take that power and wield it wisely!


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