As nice as we try to be, there’s always someone who gets on our bad side sometimes. At varsity and in digs, there are times when peeps just don’t get along – instead of making enemies with other students, you should try and resolve your conflicts. Here are some tips you can use to make your varsity years drama-free!
What causes conflict?
Take one look at any family, varsity class, or digs building and you’ll realise one thing – humans are all different. We have different personalities, different upbringings, and different goals in life – and these differences can create conflicts.
A conflict could be a disagreement – you just don’t agree with something that someone else says or does, and when you let them know about it, they react in a bad way. If you get into an argument at varsity or in digs, keep these points in mind before it gets too nasty:
- Is the argument worth it? Some peeps will have a massive argument over random stuff that shouldn’t even be an issue, like what sauce to put on a burger, or which band plays the best. This type of argument is not worth getting into – just agree to disagree and leave it alone!
- How do you sound to the other person? Take a step back and ask yourself how you’d feel if you were the other person – are you being rude or making them feel small? You can disagree with someone all you like, but do it in a way that shows respect – that way, they might actually listen to you and not get mad.
- Are you getting too personal? If you really don’t like someone and the feeling is mutual, the two of you will be ready to argue about anything – in this situation, avoiding the person is best. You’ll get too personal and end up having a huge fight over nothing.
Resolving an argument
If you stay calm and tell the person exactly why you disagree with them, you’ll give them a chance to tell you their side of the story. This is the first step in finding a solution so that you can all chill together with no issues.
Talking to each other with respect is the first step to resolving a conflict – keep reading our blog for more advice on getting along and avoiding varsity wars!
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