Coping with Negative Thoughts and Poor Decisions

By Jul 3, 2017 No Comments

Varsity life is full of highs and lows, achievements and failures, as well as good and bad decisions. It is a time to explore who you are as a person – what you like, what you don’t, what you want, what you need.

This can often lead to you making a few less than responsible choices, especially when egged on by your friends. The good news is, just like mom always told you – it’s ok to make mistakes, just as long as you learn from them.

Your mistakes don’t define you. It’s how you face up to them that matters. Let’s take a look at a handful of common mistakes that the majority of varsity students will make at least once over the next couple of years, and explain how and why you can turn them into something positive.

Getting Completely Trashed at a Campus Street Party

Experimenting with alcohol and testing your limits comes with the territory of being a student. However, after spending one too many mornings crouched over the toilet feeling utterly miserable, there’s no doubt that you will learn what your limits actually are. Drinking responsibly will likely become a lot more enjoyable than drinking until you’re completely wasted after a few of these mistakes!

Stressing about the Way You Look

This is likely something that you have struggled with for a long time, not just now that you have started university. Comparing yourself to others is normal and wanting to change things about your appearance is normal, too. However, if you are to grow, stop focusing on what you don’t like and start focusing more on what you do. With a bit of practice, you’ll learn to love every part of your face and body – ‘flaws’ and all.

Hanging Out with a Friend You Know is Toxic

Whether they push you into doing things that you don’t feel completely comfortable with or whether they bring you down emotionally, toxic friends can cause a lot of damage. Once you have had enough, however, you will stand up to them… and, in doing so, you will learn one of life’s greatest lessons – how to say ‘no’ and how to stop worrying about what others think of you.

Beating Yourself Up for Not Getting the Results you Wanted

A fact of life is that failure is a big part of it. The really unfortunate truth is that it can still happen no matter how hard you try to avoid it. The secret is learning how to accept each failure. Instead of allowing it to break you, use it to make a success out of the situation the next time around by working both harder and smarter.

Worrying about Getting a Boyfriend/Girlfriend

So many students think that the guy or girl they date defines who they are, as well as the quality of the varsity experience that they will have. The truth is that there is plenty of time to find someone to be with once you leave varsity and enter the ‘real’ world. If it happens now, it happens; but don’t make it your primary focus. There are a lot more important things at stake.

Coping with negative thoughts and bad decisions is all about being kinder to yourself and truly making an effort to learn from your experiences. After all, that’s how well-rounded, inspirational people (with a host of great stories to tell) are created!

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