Deciding to move on from a relationship must be one of the most difficult things to deal with, especially if it started out well. If you’ve both tried to work through the issues and it hasn’t helped, if you’re still not feeling loved, respected and supported, and if the whole thing feels like more effort than it’s worth, it may be time to move on.
Remember that there are always two sides to a story
Rather than placing blame on the other, understand that you just weren’t right for each other. Breaking up allows the space for each of you to find someone who is better suited to you.
Make a clean break
No matter how mutual the break-up, trying to be friends through it is likely to make it harder and it’s not fair to either party. Late night messages after a few drinks or ‘happening’ to bump into your ex are no-nos. Delete their number from your phone and hang out with separate friends for a while to give you both time to process and get used to the new status of your relationship.
Let friends and family know about the break-up and support you as you work through it. Having said that, do focus on working through it and moving on. Even the most loving of friends and family can lose patience if you are still endlessly talking about it months later. If you are struggling to deal with your feelings, speak to a professional or try writing down what you’d like to say to your ex on a piece of paper, then burn it.
Now that you’re available again, it’s the perfect time to meet new people and try new things. Is there someone you quite fancied before but didn’t get to know since you were attached (just be careful not to jump into a rebound relationship)? Is there an activity you’ve been longing to try but just never found time for? Take advantage of your extra free time and expand your horizons. You might just find that the break-up is the best thing that ever happened to you!
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