Do you find that people sometimes walk all over you, or ignore your opinion (even when you do actually know what you’re talking about)? If so, it may be time to earn some respect!

Firm up your boundaries

If people tend to treat you badly or you struggle to say no, you may need to strengthen your boundaries. If you’re uncomfortable with something, check in with yourself on whether you really need to put up with it – and if you do, be clear on why, as that helps to come to acceptance around it. Often there is something you can do to change it though. Sometimes you just need to say “no, I can’t help you with that – I need to put my energy/time/attention elsewhere” or “I’d appreciate it if you’d take my feelings/needs into account ”. For more on boundaries, see here.

Speak your truth

When you consistently say what you really think and feel, rather than what you think people want to hear, others can rely on what you have to say. (Obviously you need to do this in as constructive a way as possible, not like a 3-year old throwing a tantrum.) This builds both trust and respect, and they are more likely to listen to you when you speak.

Consider other viewpoints

It’s never all about us, so we also need to consider what others might think and feel. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and their truth might be different from yours. That said, there is almost always somewhere between the extremes where some kind of compromise or collaboration can happen. If people feel you are open to other perspectives, they trust you not to be biased and may even respect you enough to consult you for your opinion.

When you know who you are and what’s important to you, it’s far easier to have firm boundaries, speak your truth and consider others’ viewpoints, without worrying that people will judge you. Getting to know, like and trust yourself is always a good place to start and builds your presence too. Focus on doing that and you’ll already be on the right track.

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