You may have heard the expression, “he’s a glass half-full/half-empty kind of guy” somewhere before, but what exactly does that mean?
Empty or full?
If you’re a “half-empty” type, you’ll tend to focus on the more negative things, those which aren’t working or that you don’t like. When something good happens, your first thought may be, ‘’It’s all downhill from here”.
If you’re a “half-full” person, you’ll be more focussed on the positive, looking for the good in people and in situations. When something bad happens, you’ll probably think, “Oh well, at least it can only get better from here”.
Which is best?
The perspective we choose to adopt can make all the difference. With a glass half-full approach, we expect the best to happen, which is much more fun and attracts positive people and situations into our lives. A positive approach also creates positive energy. So how do we do that?
Search for the silver lining
When something bad happens or you behave in a way you’re not proud of, look for the positive that’s come out of it. Has the loss of someone or something encouraged you to be grateful for what you still have in your life? Did the difficult times bring people closer together? What did you learn that will help you to do better next time?
Choose where to put your energy
If you hold on to feeling bad about a situation that didn’t work out or someone who didn’t treat you well, you’re wasting energy that you could put to better use, perhaps to come up with a new plan or spend time with people who like and respect you. Take note of where things went wrong so you can do them differently next time, then move on.
Keep things in perspective
It’s ok to be sad or upset sometimes – the trick is not to get stuck there. Once you’ve allowed yourself enough time to emotionally process what’s happened, ask yourself these questions:
- In the bigger scheme of things, does what went wrong really matter?
- Will it still matter in a year or ten years’ time?
Sometimes it also helps to list everything that went right so you don’t fixate on what didn’t.