Ever wondered why some people seem able to cope with just about anything in their path, while others seem to crumble at the first signs of trouble? It may appear to be more a matter of personality traits than anything else, but in fact there are ways to develop and improve emotional resilience, which will empower you to deal much better with the ups and downs of life.
Here are some things to practice:
Focus on the positive
Looking for the upside has many benefits including shifting your energy and outlook, which allows you to see how a negative situation could actually help you. Sometimes the best things in life happen ‘by mistake’ while we’re trying to do something else – but only if we’re open to making the most of whatever arises.
Learn from your mistakes
Don’t be afraid of making mistakes – after all it’s one of the best ways to learn – but don’t make the same mistake twice. Take some time to figure out what went wrong then try a different approach to it next time.
Take responsibility for changing what you can
Instead of seeing yourself as a victim, work on finding a solution to what’s not working. If there doesn’t seem to be a solution, then focus on how you can come to a place of acceptance around it. It’s pointless wasting time and energy on things you can’t control.
Celebrate the successes of others
Most successful people have worked extremely hard to get where they are, and failed many times along the way (in fact they may still be failing in some areas of their lives where you are already succeeding). Understanding that everyone has their own challenges, even those who seem to have it all together, helps to put things in perspective.
In the end, everyone has their own road to walk. So rather than comparing yourself to anyone else, follow your own heart and focus on how you can best express your unique talents. Consistently doing what feels right for you will energise and fulfil you; making the tough times much easier to deal with, no matter what life brings your way.
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